WHEN WIFE WAS UPSET WITH ME

How did you know 💡?“ she asked me. Because of the letter ✉️ of ‘Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, I thought. Read the article to know more.

In the name of Allah, the Most Compassionate, the Most Gracious.

"O Prophet, why do you prohibit [yourself from] what Allah has made lawful for you, seeking the approval of your wives? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.” (Surah At Tahrim, 66:1)

We are newly married 🌸, and my wife was for some reason temporarily upset with me 🌑.

I told her I knew she would be upset 🌑 with me.

“How did you know 💡?” she asked me.

Because of the letter ✉️ of 'Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, I thought.

The mother of the believers Aisha wrote a letter to Muwawiyah, in which she said, Indeed I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ saying:

مَنِ الْتَمَسَ رِضَاءَ اللَّهِ بِسَخَطِ النَّاسِ كَفَاهُ اللَّهُ مُؤْنَةَ النَّاسِ وَمَنِ الْتَمَسَ رِضَاءَ النَّاسِ بِسَخَطِ اللَّهِ وَكَلَهُ اللَّهُ إِلَى النَّاسِ

Whoever seeks the pleasure of Allah by the displeasure of people, Allah will suffice him against the people.
Whoever seeks the pleasure of people by the displeasure of Allah, Allah will leave him to the patronage of people. (Tirmizi, 2414, Sahih - Al Albani)

Being newly married, I was eager to make my wife happy with me. In this process I may have done something not right. It wasn’t related to my wife, but rather my behavior with someone else.

I was thus expecting she would become upset 🌑 with me.

Dear brothers and sisters, always seek Allah’s pleasure ☀️, even if it may mean displeasing people. Allah will be sufficient for you against the people.

But if you make your Lord displeased to make someone happy, Allah will leave you to the other person.

The Messenger of Allah ﷺ taught this prayer:

فَلاَ تَكِلْنِي إِلَى نَفْسِي طَرْفَةَ عَيْنٍ

Do not leave me to myself for the blink of an eye.
(Abi Dawud 5090, Hasan in chain - Al Albani)

O Allah do not leave us to ourselves for even the blink of an eye. Make us chose your pleasure over the pleasure of others.

​And peace be upon the one who follows right guidance.